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Are You Ready To Give Up The Past–(Part III)

Our group met at one of Sibyl’s friend’s house to perform our private ritual of celebrating the Day of the Dead. We had a lovely breakfast which included Day of the Dead bread which is made only around the time of these festivities and can be bought at most any bakery in town.

Day of the Dead Bread

Day of the Dead Bread

 

Afterwards we took two flights of stairs leading to a partially covered rooftop patio. We sat under the covered area where the only wall supporting the roof was painted turquoise blue and decorated with “milagros,” which are religious folk charms that are traditionally used for healing purposes and as votive offerings in Mexico.  We lit a small fire in a pot placed on a coffee table cut from a slice of a tree and we formed a sacred circle around it.  Then we went around the circle letting each of us verbalize what of our past we were willing to let die and what we wanted to birth. Finally we burnt papers which we had written what we were willing to let die in the fire.

 

El Dia De Los Muertos (see previous article) gave me an opportunity to look at my past and honor it for who I have been. But it also gave me an opportunity to clear out the clutter of my fears, my angers, my limitations, my pains and my Shame that were holding me back from stepping into a new, never-been-done-before future.

A lot of times like the “Catrinas,” (see previous article) we are ashamed of who we are, so we wear these painted masks pretending to be somebody else. But you see, many times, it is within our darkness that we hide the light of our powers and our strengths. And because the “gems” of who we are, are held in our past, we are wise enough to know that we cannot let go of it until we extract them. And how do you do that, you may ask? My entire book is dedicated to teaching you ways in which you can take your power back.

It’s about weeding out by healing what in our past doesn’t serve us anymore while discovering and recovering those hidden gems. Once we have extracted them, we can let go of the past. And when those pasts are mourned and forgiven, it’s about seeding new futures that will reflect who we are becoming.

The gem that I discovered within the pain of my loss was the depth of my love.  You see, love’s fear is the fear of loss, and love’s pain is the pain of separation. I didn’t know the depth to which I loved, especially for my father. When my father died, I realized, “I am really afraid of losing love.” But I also realized that if I am this afraid, then the love that is there behind that fear must be pretty immense. Because you see, when your love is very deep, you have so much more to lose; therefore, the intensity of your fear and the intensity of your pain is so much greater.

There are people who are afraid to love because they are afraid to lose, or even more sadly, there are people who have loved and lost and have decided never to love again because the pain of separation and the fear of losing was too much.

When you do not love out of fear of loss, it does not make the fear go away or makes the pain any less. It just makes you a fearful, pain-filled lonely person. And it would seem obvious that if you love, then you risk the chance of losing—and you do, but the irony is, that when you go through the fear and into the love–even though the fear of loss does not totally go away, the intensity of the fear will come into balance and you get to experience the very thing that you want, which is the love.

I have chosen to go beyond the fear and beyond the pain to love even more. And my two new dogs that I have recently rescued, Bella and Boo, they are helping me to do just that because I prefer to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.

So, ARE YOU READY…. to give up the past that doesn’t serve you anymore, and to retrieve the treasure so that you can become a more authentic you? I would love to hear about some of the gems of yourself that you have recovered. Please feel free to share.

P. S. Please see “Are You Ready to Give Up the Past-(Part I), and “Are You Ready to Give Up the Past-(Part II) for the entire story.

The following are pictures of some of the wonderful people that I shared this memorable trip with:

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Are You Ready to Give Up the Past?—Part I

Streets of San Miguel Allende

It’s been over two years since I last wrote on my blog and during this time I have gone into a self-imposed exile as the events of my life seemed to be trying to catch up with 2013, if in fact you believe that 2012 would be the end to an Old World and 2013 would be the beginning of a new one.

 

Well since 2012, I started physically losing pieces of my present. It came in the form of the passing of all my dogs, Mitzie, Snowy and Betty. And it didn’t just stop there. It continued with me making a gut wrenching decision to find new homes for a lot of my birds out of love for them and love for myself. It further continued with me losing my father in 2014 and at that point, it felt like I was lost at sea with no life raft to grab on to. These events were coming at me one after another and were the catalysts that propelled me into my Dark Night of the Soul. More appropriately, I would say that I was experiencing being in what my friend and mentor Lazaris calls the Dark Wood which is a metaphor for waking up one night and being in a place where you realize that “everything is wholly lost.” These literal losses were as if life was forcing me to change in ways that said that I could not go into this new reality if I was carrying around baggage from my past.

 

It is only now that I feel like putting pen to paper, so I would like to pick up from where I left off by taking you on a journey to a far away land where the events that were happening seemed to be paralleling my life.

 

My last post was on October 2, 2013 and at the end of that month I was invited by Sibyl English, the founder of Womanspeakpublications.com to give a speech along with other speakers at the Wellness and Spirituality Expo in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico, where the proceeds from the event would be donated to the Casa Organization to stop violence against women and children in San Miguel.

Brochure of Wellness & Spirituality Expo

Wellness and Spirituality Brochure

I hesitantly accepted as on one hand I was wildly excited but on the other hand, like most people, one of my greatest fears was public speaking.  However, I looked forward to my new adventure where I embarked upon a week-long tour of a most beautiful historic Colonial city that sits on a vortex about 7000 feet above sea-level where the hill-like streets are cobbled and lined on either side by long continuous walls painted mostly in yellow or burnt sienna and punctuated with doors made of wood or wrought iron depicting entrances to people’s houses or businesses. (you never know which) And even though the houses are connected and the streets are teeming with cars and people hustling and bustling; somehow behind those walls, you feel insulated as if nothing is happening outside.

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The town is filled with ex-pats who come there to retire, many of whom are artists who still live out their passion and sell their work. Behind those walls, the houses depict the Spanish architecture of entering a court yard before entering the main house.  Most of the houses are constructed on three levels with the communal areas leading out to an enclosed garden on the first level, the bedrooms on the second level and a roof top terrace overlooking the city on the third level. We stayed at a most charming hacienda with two fire places as being in a desert, the days would go into the seventies; however, the nights would dip into the forties at that time of the year. Outdoor had a beautiful covered patio with a spiral staircase leading to the roof. Adjoining the patio was the most enchanted garden with a water fountain.

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Sibyl took our group which comprised the speakers she had invited on a tour of the city, and the week was filled mostly with dining at her friend’s houses and at restaurants, as the town is literally filled with eating establishments as most of the retirees who live there spend much of their time socializing with each other. The town is so small that everyone knows everyone and there is no need really to have a car. People hail these green taxis that drive up and down the streets and pay three dollars each way to get where they are going. And it doesn’t take more than 5 minutes to get anywhere in town.  We even had our personal taxi driver that we would call wherever we wanted to get around.

Out Taxi Driver, Martin

Our Taxi Driver, Martin

We visited La Gruta which is a hot springs where the water is captured in three outdoor pools with one of them adjoining a tunnel made out of stones that lead to an underground pool where you can stand under a water fall flowing out of a simple PVC pipe. Talk about being in a sauna as the temperature of the water is about 100 degrees Fahrenheit. We spent the day relaxing in the water and having lunch in an outdoor garden.

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The trip would not be complete if we didn’t visit the Casa Organization where we were taken on a tour of the grounds. The center provides daycare for children and a place for mothers to find the support and the help they need to raise their families. We met some of the children and we learnt about the outreach programs to help educate the community about domestic violence.

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That inspired me even more as I gave my speech on Shame which is the foundation of my book, An Awakening, Mapping Your Dream, Vol. 1, as abuse in the form of domestic violence is one of the major ways that Shame is passed on. Giving the speech was also a time of growing and changing for me to push me out of my comfort zone of being an introvert and to step into the persona of being a public speaker, something that has give me much fear and trepidation as I previously mentioned. So one of the things I did before going on my trip was to spend some time dismantling these fears through some of the techniques which I teach in my book.

The highlight of my trip though was the Day of the Dead celebrations which were also happening that week. These events were a figurative expression of what I was experiencing which I will describe in detail in my next post.  I just want to close by saying that as I burn bridges to an old reality, I still feel disoriented like a turtle without its shell not having any concrete directions at this time; however,  I am so excited  as I build bridges to new reality, and most of all I want to say, “it feels good to be back.”

Must I Compete

 

Competition is an assumption that someone else in your market place is vying for the same money, the same clients, or the same business as you. This whole concept of competition is based on scarcity, the idea that there is not enough for both you and your competitors to have as much as you want.

Competition makes sense in fear-based reality. A reality that says rocks are hard and water is wet, and that’s just the way the world is. In a reality that says, take before you are taken, that you must fight for what you want because the world is cruel and harsh and there is not enough for everyone. It makes sense in a dog-eat-dog world of corporate greed where the big guys take all and the little guys get squashed as confirmed by the mission statement of companies such as Walmart which is to “dominate the world.”

It is reinforced by advertisements such as one that is currently being aired by Chase bank promoting the use of their credit card. In the advertisement they end with this quote: “Chase…so you can.”  Every time I watch it, I shout, “No you don’t want to do that!” You never want to have to run after anything—that means it is not within your reach.

That is the ultimate of scarcity. In the frequency of scarcity everything is in short supply which leaves you with very little choice. Manifestation and scarcity energies do not mix. They function in entirely different frequencies, so if you are competing and chasing after, know that you are operating in scarcity and you are on the short end of the stick.

Competition also breeds jealousy. Jealousy is when you think somebody has something that you feel you should have instead. It’s like you want what they have, but they’ve got it, so now you are going to have to go out and really work hard to find other ways to get what you want.

Jealousy is a simple identification with that other person as that person should have been me. Jealousy can also bring a tremendous amount of anger and blame at that other person for having what you want.  And that’s why many people who become successful become targets of the jealousy of other people as they wish and hope for an opportunity to sabotage and tear them down. Be careful with the energy of jealousy. You will always limit your prosperity, your abundance, and the amount of love you can receive, if you judge others who can receive apparently more than you.

So must you compete? There are people who are trying their best to have successful businesses, and yet it is difficult not to fall into the current model of competition which can also lead to jealousy. The current model of running a business to put it in one word is to become a workaholic, to push and drive because by golly you are competing and you’ve got to out compete.

However, the energy of the workaholic is the energy of not enough. In this energy you feel you are not successful enough. You always feel like you are not doing enough, and you always have to be doing more because you are competing with these other people and if you don’t run faster and harder than them, then they are going to take over and make the big bucks and leave you behind.

The truth is you don’t have to compete. Competition exists because of a belief in lack and a belief in fear of failure. So here’s what you can do.

The first thing to know is that there is no competition because you can create whatever you choose. There are statisticians out there that will tell you that your market is so big and only so much of the pie can be yours. Don’t fall for it. Statistics don’t count. They don’t make any difference. You are the one that makes all the difference. As a reality creator, you are creating your clients and your business. You came into this world with talents, strengths and capabilities that are unique to you. As such, nobody is going after the same market as you and you don’t need to compete against anyone.

If you will let your talents, strengths and capabilities be an expression of what my dear unseen friends Galexis calls the 3 Divine Channels of Creativity as opposed to doing whatever you do solely for money, you will find that you will be fulfilled and you probably will make lots of money because you will be doing what you love. When you base what you do according to money, you probably won’t be successful because you are making money more important than you.

The 3 Divine Channels of Creativity as described by Galexis are as follows:

  1. The first is to Love, Touch and Heal which is to connect with others, to give and receive energy to love, touch and heal.
  2. The second one is to create, to imagine, to dream, to put together something that’s fun for you, to activate your own energy, your passion, your drive and your divine flow.
  3. The third channel is to learn, to grow and to expand your awareness of yourself as a Divine Being.

Try activating any one of these three channels in whatever you do and see if you don’t find your life and your business running more smoothly.

And finally, look at a person who is successful and who is happy and enjoying what it is that you have been desiring and raise your resonance by inspiration to a level where you too can participate and experience that same joy and success that they have. You do it by saying, “This person is an inspiration for me. If they can have it, I can too. I want that for me and I choose that for me.” And rather than being jealous of them, celebrate in their success knowing that there is more than enough to go around.

I Affirm

160130-20130608Affirmations are the poster child of the New Age community. Some of them really work and some of them don’t work. You can’t be on this path and not tried them.

However, they have to be aligned and anchored really honestly in you because otherwise if you put yourself in a place where you see yourself doing something and you don’t really think you are there but you affirm yourself to be there it can confuse the heck out of the your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind says, “We are not there. We are not at that place and you are affirming “I am, I am, I am,” and in a sense it becomes an internal conflict and you start losing energy.

We’ve been told to say things like “I AM GOD, I AM GOD, I AM GOD.” And your Subconscious goes, “What the hell are they talking about?” And it doesn’t know what to do with that statement. So it scratches its figurative head, thinking how it can please you (because the Subconscious is all about consistently following commands) and then the light bulb goes off. It has a bright idea that says, “God is a lot of things. So maybe we should make them really big so that they can become all of God.” And you start to gain weight for no apparent reason. You see, the Subconscious is very literal. And that is the result of “I AM GOD.” You become fifty pounds heavier and you end up blaming it on God.

The problem with affirmations in its current form is that it needs to be worded in the present participle. To affirm “I am in perfect health” when you have a malady is just not so. To do so when you are sick sends the message to your Subconscious Mind that your present state of being represents wellness, and therefore, it keeps you in that condition. You need to say instead, “I am getting better every day,” putting it into the “ing” form and continuing until you get to the state of health you want to be in.

 

What About Human Dignity?

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It was supposed to a joyous event. It was April 15th, 2013 in a small and insulated city called Boston where the oldest marathon was being held on a holiday called Patriot’s Day. It’s like a weekend block party where schools are closed and families come to have fun to watch 26,000 runners run for personal reasons, one of which is raising capital for various charities that mean something to them such as cancer victims, supporting Iraq war veterans or fallen veterans.

Every runner knows what it’s like to turn the corner on Boylston Street and see the finish line and see families cheering them. As if it was planned for when the runners would be making their home stretch, two pressure cooker bombs containing shrapnel and smokeless gun powder intended to injure, maim and put terror into people exploded. Even though it is the most televised marathon creating a greater possibility of being spotted, someone was emboldened to make a statement. It was an act of terrorism, an act intended to communicate fear to a wider audience than their actual victims.

Mayhem ensued where three people were killed and many others lost their limbs or were severely wounded. And it became a 24 hour news cycle of reporting the event featuring experts on terrorism, and disaster preparedness, and FBI profilers. Even the conspiracy theorists joined in.

This was like a bomb explosion that we hear about in the news in Israel or Bagdad. What were we to do? Some of the experts were saying that we need to be more vigilant, calling for more heightened security. This was a social event.  We already have our bodies and bags searched for weapons at our airports and many of our sporting events. Others said that we should have military police patrolling in front of restaurants and nightclubs like in Israel or have live surveillance cameras at every corner like in London.

It evolved into an intense effort to focus all resources on catching the perpetrator, to discover the motive and the mindset of the person or persons responsible for this.

While this was playing out, I started to ponder what this was all about?

Why did we allow this into our reality?  We didn’t go out to create it, but we allowed it. (see previous article.)  Was our reality trying to talk to us about fear, about security, about freedom, about forgiveness, justice or retribution? That’s when I saw a 30 second interview that made me take notice. There was a man with his entire hands and arms covered in blood and he was holding a small equally blood drenched American flag. He was telling the story how he was in the crowd waving the flag when the bombs went off and how he ran over to one of the victims who had both their legs blown off by the blast and how he picked this person up and took them to the medical tent. And I thought to myself, “This is about human dignity.” You see, tragedy and dignity are akin. As awful as it may seem; many times, it is through the avenue of tragedy that we find our dignity. It is even represented archetypally in Greek mythology by Melpomene, the Muse of Tragedy and Dignity.  Dignity is to sense the majesty, the sense of respect and honor, and the sense of benevolence that is within a person or thing.  It’s about the capacity to honor oneself and to honor other people. It’s about having a relationship with one’s Soul, and sensing the Soul of others.

People risked their own lives that day in order to save others. When so many instincts were to run away, people ran to. Among them were the first responders who ran into the chaos to save lives. People showed up at the hospitals to give blood to the victims. As President Obama puts it, “There were so many acts of heroism and acts of selflessness and generosity and love of those who stayed behind to help the wounded.”

The perpetrators were eventually caught. One was killed and the other was apprehended. They were brothers whose family was granted political asylum from persecution and allowed to come to America. Following their capture, their uncle was asked in an interview, “How do you feel about America?” He answered, “This country gives a chance to everyone to be treated like a human being.” When I heard his answer, I was even more convinced that through this horrific tragedy, one of the questions our reality is forcing us to address is, “What about human dignity?”

You Create Your Own Reality

We are each creating our own reality, twenty-four hours a day. The problem is that we are not conscious we are doing it. And how do we create reality? We create reality by either consciously creating it, or by allowing it. To consciously create reality is to deliberately go about trying to manifest something. For instance, you decide you want to buy a car. Are you just going to buy any old car? No, you aren’t. You decide on what make and model you want. You decide on the color. Whether it is gear shift or automatic. All these decisions are consciously putting together what you want.

On the other hand, people who are not consciously creating their reality are allowing reality to be created for them. When you allow reality, you work with the Law of Attraction. If you do not look at what you think and what you believe, then the thoughts that you have stored in your consciousness are going to, by default, go out there and pick up whatever is like it and bring it back to you.

I know that when I heard the concept that You Create your Own Reality, something rang true for me. I didn’t know how I knew, but I just knew that I knew. If you recognize that on some level, you’ve created everything, then knowing that you create your reality is a good thing because if you created it, then you can do something about it, as opposed to if someone else created it for you, then you will have to wait on them to fix it. You might be waiting forever. The whole premise for writing my book, “An Awakening, Mapping Your Dream, Vol. 1″, was to show you how you can create your reality.

Every time you make a choice or a decision, you are creating your reality. Now some of us are in situations where we feel powerless and that we don’t really have a lot of choice. It might be something we don’t want to do or something we are obligated to do by contract such as a job. Every challenge that comes to you is an opportunity, and every opportunity that comes to you is a challenge for you to be able to respond as a powerful reality creator and to make your choices from this position. That’s why you have an arrangement with life to show you where you are giving your power away in order to give you an opportunity to take it back and become the powerful creator that you are.

What if you had enough love and value of yourself that you could allow your reality to love and value you because it is consistent with who you are? What if all the unpleasant realities that come to you is just the universe’s way of saying, “Look, partner, here is an issue where you have in the past given away your power, your freedom and your love… and in order for you to be who you truly are; a powerful reality creator, you need to retrieve your power, your freedom and your love.”

If it’s something you have to do and don’t want to do, choose to do it as a creator and not as a victim. Choose to be an empowered being by saying, “I choose to do this in my light, and in my power while being fully present.” If there is a problem, say,” I am going to anticipate that this is somehow going to be solved with magic,” even though you don’t know how the magic is going to show up. When you make choices in your power, you and your reality get hooked up. And once you get hooked up consistently, your reality and your choice become one. When you and your reality become one, you better get ready to receive it. It’s time to love your reality and let your reality love you—by giving to you through choice, your desires and your wishes.

How To Feel Safe In An Unsafe World

photo_49950_20110714We live in a fear-based reality. A reality that says rocks are hard and water is wet, and that’s just the way the world is. In a reality that says take before you are taken, that you must fight for what you want because the world is harsh and cruel and there is not enough for everyone. In a world where things happen to everyone, so just accept it.

So how safe is your reality? How much imagining and worry and projection of “what ifs,” do you put in your future? “Oh, I would love to do that…but what if this happens?”  In our culture, we have been trained to feel unsafe. In our mythology, we have been taught to hope for the best but assume the worst. But where’s the power in that statement? It’s in the worst because that’s what you are expecting and creating; however, our culture says that’s a good thing to do because then you will be prepared. But how can you be prepared when out of the blue in public places, strange things could happen? Like some crazy guy going “postal,” and shooting you? Or, where at any moment you are in anticipation that terrorists could do something horrible, and of course 9/11 entrenched this energy. And with all the mass shootings and the current debate over gun control, we as a nation are faced with how unsafe we all feel right now.

How can you protect yourself from bad things happening? Protection devices are security measures; whereas, safety is a resonance. You know that no matter how many protection devices you have, you are never totally safe. Safety is a choice. You have to choose to be safe. If you hold the resonance of safety, you will not attract to yourself something devastating.

If you are caught up in this fear based reality, it’s time for you to step beyond the limitations of your fear. Time to stop letting your fears run your life and time to claim your light. Here are some tips how you can hold the resonance of safety.

  • Be present in the moment and claim that you are safe. Your power is only available to you when you are present. Also, you can make choices when you are present because you are in the greatest capacity of your power. Some people get present when they breathe, so breathe in and say, “I am present and I am safe right here in this moment.” That’s where you start.
  • For you to be safe in your world, you’ve got to love everything that is there. It doesn’t mean that you turn a blind eye and ignore all the pain and suffering and ugliness. You know that doesn’t work. It means that you stop judging the ugliness because if you judge something, you will create fear in it and will bring limitation to yourself.
  • Instead, take a deep breath and breathe the world into you, into your body and breathe out love and safety and see that love going out to every inch of our planet. Do it a few times. If you don’t judge it, then none of the pain or the suffering or the sorrow will stick to you. And as you send out love and safety, what does that do but heal all of that.
  • Be courageous enough to dream. Dream for your world those qualities that you love and cherish and value. A dear friend once told me, “You never dream a dream—a true dream that is, without giving yourself the opportunity and means for making that dream come true.” Imagine what it would be like if we had harmony and cooperation between people and world peace.

You can take your power back from your fears and dream the future safe. You do it first for yourself and then for your world. And as more and more people join you, then the impact on our world expands and expands where the mythology of a fear based reality becomes a myth of a new reality founded in love and safety.

7 Ways to Release Anger Out of Your Body

123779-20130201Anger is a feeling of powerlessness. However, within your anger is a tremendous sense of power, purpose, passion and meaning because when you feel angry, it’s because you wanted to do something and you were blocked from doing it. People usually think of emotions as good or bad and they think that anger is a bad emotion, that you shouldn’t have it. That if somehow you feel angry, then you are not a nice person, or you’re not a spiritual person. From my vantage point, it is a rather good emotion because if you analyze the frequency of anger, it is an emotion that churns. It is trying to get you off your duff to do something about the situation. The truth is that no emotion is negative unless we refuse to feel it. That’s when it becomes destructive. We are only required to feel our emotions and release them. Even the most beautiful emotion of love will become destructive if refused to be felt.

So, anger is what it is, and if you judge yourself for feeling angry, then you are going to think that anger is bad. We like to feel the so-called positive emotions and take credit for the realities that they create. But what happens when you refuse to feel and release the so-called negative emotions like anger because you are afraid it’s going to be painful? Well it’s your emotion and you created it, so where is it going to go? If you don’t feel it and release it, you will either stuff it in your physical body, or into your extended body called your reality.

So when you swallow your anger, or stuff it down because you want to be a nice person and you don’t want to show it, over time your body might respond with symptoms of pain and inflammation as it is trying to say to you that it is not able to put up with the anger that has gotten stashed in it. If this happens, here are some of the ways you can deal with it.

  1. Release all judgments and criticisms about yourself.  The purpose of judgments is to make you not feel which is what got you in the situation in the first place.
  2. Forgive your body for having to make your life miserable in order to bring this to your attention.
  3. Honor and own that this is your creation in order for you to pay attention to, and see how you have given your power away to other people and circumstances to offer you the opportunity to step into your power now.
  4. Give your body tremendous love as part of the healing process without any judgments or resentments at it for limiting you.
  5. Give your body basic kinesthetic pleasure as part of loving it. Perhaps a gentle massage, energy healing or a mineral bath.
  6. Address your anger. This is probably the most important step in releasing that feeling of powerlessness out of your psyche so that you are able to step into your power. In my work, I carry people through visualization techniques in order to accomplish this.
  7. Promise your body that you are going to love it and care for it and you are going to work in partnership with it. This will build trust between you and your body. Then imagine yourself healed in the not too distant future.

If you will take these seven steps, you will release anger out of your body, and you will heal yourself.

Who Has Your Power?

Who Has Your Power?

Who Has Your Power?

Power is the ability to act. When you give your power away, what you essentially do is take the reference point off you and put it out there to the thing that you give your power to. Now this is significant because in order to be powerful, you need to have the ability to make choices that come from Your Will, (not somebody else’s Will) and to activate these choices if you so desire which is what power is. So a pertinent question is, “Do you have the ability to make choices that come from your Will and to activate these choices if you so desire?”

If not, then who has your power? Is it your boss? Or is it your partner, your lover, or spouse?  Does fear have your power? Or have you given your power to social mores or institutions such as the government, a religion or a philosophy? Do doctors or lawyers have your power?  Or is it spiritual leaders such as rabbis, priests, ministers or gurus? Do you give it to controlling and domineering people? Have you given it to comfort foods, alcohol, drugs or other forms of escape? Have you given it to taking care of everyone else? Or, do you let people who are unhappy drain and suck your energy? Have you given your power away to money or time, the scarcity or lack of it?

You see, the problem stems from the fact that many times as children, we were given very twisted and warped definitions of power. We were told that you cannot have your reference point as you because that’s selfish. That’s egotistical. That’s bad. You need to care for and love and serve others. Don’t think of yourself or nobody is going to like you. We were told things like, “Oh, that person is powerful.” But when we looked at that person, what we saw was one dominating, controlling,  “blankety blank.”  So we concluded that to be powerful you had to be tough and strong, and have power over, and boss people around, and we didn’t want to be one of those so we shied away from our power.

For you to step into your power, you must take your power back from those warped and twisted definitions of power. You’ve had power to just give away and you need to take it back from all the authorities to whom you have given it to.

Here is a powerful technique to take your power back from anyone or anything. It was given by a group of non-physical beings that I am friends with called Galexis:

  1. In your mind, see the person or thing out there that you are giving energy to. If it’s a thing, then personify it.
  2. Imagine the power as a ball of light and mentally reach out and grab the power from them and bring it back into you.
  3. While doing this, take a big in breath while saying, “Power that I gave to you, return to Me. Power Return to Me.” Repeat this three times.
  4. Now, sense yourself as being really large, about 15-20 feet and see yourself looking down at this person. You’ve gotten bigger because you took your power back. Notice that they are not as solid or as vibrant because all their intensity of power was your energy.
  5. In your mind, thank them for showing you where you gave your power away and for the opportunity to take it back.
  6. Then forgive them.
  7. And lastly, forgive yourself for giving your power away to them.

You are never powerless because you have choice at every point. You’ve even had the power to make choices to be powerless. Why not make a choice now to be powerful? Why not use your power to bring your reference point back to you, to claim your strengths, your abilities, your gifts and your talents?  If you will own your power, you will find that you can change anything.

Why not make a new year’s resolution to take your power back?

How Can I Help Someone I Care For?

Friend Helping Friend

Friend helping Friend

If you are in a boat, and someone falls overboard, do you jump in and help them?  Maybe they created you in their reality to save them. When it’s someone who you love and care for, what do you do? There is a fine line about what to do for them. You step over that line and you are being overbearing and manipulative, yet on the other side of the line, you may feel passive and powerless.

When people that you care for go though challenges that to you might not seem necessary, know that it is necessary for them. Life always shows us where we are giving our power away and it gives us the opportunity to heal it, sometimes over and over again until we get it. This may be the way that they get conscious, so don’t go and try to personally fix it for them.

Well, what about doing meditations for them where you see everything turning out alright? That’s beautiful, but it probably would not make sense to them with the self images that they are holding, so psychically they would not be able to receive it. But here’s a simple variation on the theme that you can do which will be much more effective.

Imagine breathing them in and put love into, and infuse light into their situation and give it to their Higher Selves.  Their Higher Self is the non-physical aspect of them who has  their best interest at heart because they are part of them. Some people tend to think of their Higher Self as their guardian angel. They are not really, but it’s perfectly Okay to think of them that way.

 By doing this, you won’t feel powerless and their Higher Self can give it them in a way that they can receive it. Their Higher Self will thank you and it will make a difference. It will probably mitigate or lessen some of the intensity and some of the challenges, but realize that sometimes when others are going through their darkness, it is their turning point to the light. And even though you love and care for them and it can be devastating and painful for you to watch, know that by sending love to them, you are making their lives more elegant so that fewer hearts get broken and fewer lives get shattered. And with the holidays just around the corner, what could be a better gift?